This seems very hypocritical. You are not on 1 income. Your videos etc are all monetized. Real traditional wives mothers do not have this luxury and end up fully dependent.
@marisolfrancis1591 Says:
So young and so wise! 😊
Totally agree with you Estee!
Keep going and God bless you! :)
@forestbrooks4025 Says:
😊😊
@josephtafolla Says:
That and a man will have more energy for work because he’s being recharged at home, not drained. That’ll lead to more hours/promotions/pay increase by default.
@oscardelta1257 Says:
Can also make money from home selling things online. It doesn't take a lot of time and can also be very enjoyable while making some extra money.
The wife and I retired a couple of years ago and we went down to having one vehicle. We are saving money on not having to insure two vehicles, maintenance and gasoline.
@ShivMathur Says:
What you are saying is common sense but unfortunately it’s largely absent in most people
@ShivMathur Says:
Off late I have been closely watching the rural life. The houses were made from mud and neighbours get together if someone’s house is to be made. It’s a very close knit community life. There was plenty of land on that fruits vegetables and cereals were grown. Clothes were made locally. Therefore, there wasn’t a need for money. Animal husbandry was integral part. This was holistic living by being self reliant and being a producer instead of today’s lifestyle of being a consumer. Chasing money for things you don’t really need and just being a parasite by not being a producer.
@karinsmith6934 Says:
Don’t forget paying off little debts and doing the snowball effect to eventually knock out those big debts! 🎉
@JohannaWayne-es1el Says:
We had one car
@Willipik Says:
I’ve been a “Trad-Wife” for 19 years!! I am grateful to be able to support my family. Now the reality is one car with kids in extracurricular activities isn’t gonna work in the suburbs. I had to get part-time jobs to pay for extracurriculars for my kids as well. This is not going to work for everyone especially for people who are paying back extremely high, educational, debt, or during times of extreme inflation. What happens when your middle aged and your kids leave, and then maybe your husband wants to leave? I really think this is a slippery slope for women to be trapped.
@TLStitches Says:
My husband and I have been doing this for over 41 years. It was not easy. I am referring to society and the people around us. I was told I wasn't smart, I was lazy, I was foolish, you name it. I have never once regretted this decision. I always wanted to be a stay at home mom and wife. My husband didn't make tons of money, but we made choices to do things a certain way and stayed out of debt. I'm not saying it was easy, but you have to know where your focus and priorities are. We raised 4 successes adults who are doing the same. Our girls know how to use tools as well as our son and our son does some of the cooking and has changed lots of diapers. The point is, you can do it if you want, but I have stress the importance of not letting society tear you apart and make you feel less valued. Divorce rates and family amd mental health issues have escalated since the push for feminism and the sexual revolution. Let that sink in. There is a difference between a strong woman with confidence and one who has been taught they're better than men and tear men down. A good man supports his wife emotionally just as much as financially and a good wife supports her husband the same and by taking care of other things if he's working full time. I'm not saying this is 100% foolproof, because outside factors do influence what goes on in a marriage and home, but that's why it's critical to have the right support systems in place, and even before you marry is even better.
@ashlieleavelle Says:
I completely agree with you. We need to make sacrifices for our families. I have always wanted to be home. I came home when i was pregnant. Being home with my daughter is such a joy. It is very tight financially, but traditional marriage is very rewarding. Society is so wrong about marriage. Kids want their moms home with them.
@Nexus31323 Says:
You give advise but you have an income as a youtuber..... So you are not Trad.
@helgaioannidis9365 Says:
Please when looking at the financial part, include into your planning a good pension plan for the housewife and some kind of insurance that covers for the expenses of at least a year for the whole family in case the husband dies or gets sick!!!
@williamwallace410 Says:
So many women go to work to make money they ultimately waste on day care. It’s insane.
@sunshinek5827 Says:
Honey girl, you are NOT living on one income, and you're certainly making no sacrifices to do so. You make GOOD MONEY off your looks, much like insta models, dancers, do. A nurse or a teacher has a far more traditional life than you do. As a stay at home mother of three, your days are incredibly chill. Good luck looking like this and having your house spotless and having your husband do nothing but work and rest, once ya have a toddler and a newborn. Your followers are delulu and you are a grifter.
@pokemom2713 Says:
We recently moved across country to downsize and make life actually possible. We left the large rental with the 2 car garage in flashy California and purchased a 2 year old mobile home outright in Texas. Our home is beautiful. It is a modern mobile home and we adore it. The cost of living here is like 60% of what it was in California. We sold the expensive big car and have a solid fully paid for used car now. The insurance payments are still killer but hey, it is what it is. I had never heard of “tradwife” or anything like that until very recently and I think it’s fantastic and without realizing it my family has been moving in that direction throughout our move here. I thought there was something wrong with me mentally in California because I was always so anxious and depressed and didn’t like our marriage always being at odds because we never were together and nothing at home was ever taken care of and the arguments about whose job it was when we both worked felt soul crushing. There was nothing wrong with me there. The situation was wrong for me and my marriage. I think it’s more important that we be happy and comfortable than keeping up with Joneses.
@rb7454 Says:
Thanks Estee
@minervarose7664 Says:
Any wife/ mom here who literally hates housework 😬
@Lifeafter40 Says:
When I had kids we went cold turkey and we were ok 😂
@Daniel-of6rw Says:
This just isn't feasible for most people in this economy.
@MyBeautifulHealth Says:
So you’re supporting your husband with your YouTube/TikTok money, then?
@lanam6479 Says:
Romanticizing oppression. Lovely.
@febemeyer4559 Says:
These are excellent tips - thanks Estee❤ we’ve been living these for ten years now to keep me at home. It’s been an absolute fight to make that happen and raise the kids and even though we’ve done all these things, I still need to work. Unfortunately that magical scenario isn’t possible anymore unless your husband is earning exceptionally well. World economies and cost of living look very different from the way they did in the 1950s unfortunately 😢 so many caveats and disclaimers are necessary.
But, great job on your tips - the point you’re making is that if this important to you, you must be willing to make uncomfortable and unconventional sacrifices and that is spot on.
@garianclarke5970 Says:
I work as a commercial cleaner 96 hrs a fortnight and still have to manage running the household being a homemaker and the 3 children we have 2 incomes and I don’t buy makeup I don’t get to buy clothes I live of thrift stores I do my own beauty regime and we still live week by week we still rent can’t afford to buy or save 🤷♀️ todays costs are overwhelming and the struggle is real we still have a traditional marriage and the hard work is real but that’s life in 2024 if your the same I feel you 👌🥰 we got this ladies everyday we wake up our lives are worth it and we have meaning 😘xx
@sambailie4773 Says:
Do you like to thrift? I'd love a video on your thrifting as you always look so pretty. I adore Vinted x
@sambailie4773 Says:
I grew up poor yet was so rich in love from my mum. My father was mentally ill and mum had to care for him, take care of me and a home. We had so little yet I learned to really take care of my things and to this day treasure everything. It is possible. X
@user-np2yj4pr8h Says:
Thank you for stating the obvious, that taking a little job is not being a "working woman." I work a few hours a day at my kid's school, and I highly recommend this as a way to protect your children and have a more active role in their education, as well as the pleasure of seeing them playing with their little friends and participating in class. Also, there are not very many men working in education, and those who are are likely to be respectful and married, or too busy with the kids to annoy you. It is the principle of supporting your husband in a traditional way and appreciating that he is leading the household that will improve any woman's life and marriage. Some women are fairly energetic and able to take on more than others. If you are not one of those women, that's OK too, just scale back your activities until you are well able to manage your home and family. Believe me, in my husband's country, there are NO non-traditional wives. A woman who wants that lifestyle will simply remain single, as it is not appropriate to raise children in that atmosphere. And they do not have any of the family problems we have here.
@nicolekerry4041 Says:
We dropped down to one income over 2 years ago and while we've had some struggles, we've survived and we learned we can live on so much less than we thought. Here are some things we're doing to help stretch our money, in case anyone needs some ideas!
1. We live with my aging grandfather. We still pay him rent, but we agreed on a discounted rent in exchange for me helping to take care of grandpa, cooking for him, and keeping the house clean.
2. We DIY everything we can. I bake our bread, simmer our chicken broth, grow a veggie garden, and trim our hair (thank goodness my husband isn't picky with his haircuts!). These things all require a minimal amount of skill but once you muddle through doing it the first few times you'll get the hang of it! Even my hobbies are DIY. I love knitting and I try to make things I will actually wear and use, like socks, mittens, and sweaters.
3. We just live with less. I rarely wear makeup, and if I do it's very minimal. I only buy new makeup if one of my products runs out or is expired. I rarely get my nails done and if I feel like painting them, I can do it myself at home. My husband loves books, but he limits his purchases very carefully so they're never messing up our budget.
4. We enjoy cheaper forms of entertainment. For us, a couple of streaming service subscriptions is much cheaper than cable if we want to watch a show or movie. For going out, we don't need to see an expensive event or go to a club. Going to a small, local restaurant is a splurge enough for us, and finding a park with lots of walking trails is an excellent free activity when the weather is nice. If there is a more pricey event that we want to go to, we plan in advance and slim down the budget in other areas to make it happen!
I hope this helps, living on one income is definitely a challenge in this economy, but I think it can be a beautiful thing and bring families closer together in the long run. ❤
@Justagirl325 Says:
That’s a good idea to do a slow transition trying to save up now and cut back on expenses
@HellenaHanbasquet Says:
This is all very doable. I was strictly a home maker for 10+ years. We're down to just our youngest living at home and shes in middle school. I work 15 hours a week as a librarian to get out of the house. Thats how I earn my "extras" money, makeup, clothes, treats for our daughtet or special things I want to do for my husband. We downsized our house, got rid of the "extras" stuck with used cars and only buy what we can pay cash for. For me, personally, I'm SO MUCH happier now than I ever was as a "working mom/wife". Not only as a trad-wife but just not having so much "stuff" to deal with.
@elizabeths4055 Says:
When my husband and I first got married, we were living in an apartment and told everyone that we were going to buy a house before having kids. But then since the housing market got so high, we decided it was more important to build a family then wait for a house. Fast forward to 5 years later, and we are living in an apartment with 2 kids and have never been happier! I am fortunate enough to be a stay at home mom, and I have really loved it. I get to cook for my family and bake yummy things homemade, make our home clean (it is not always clean but I try), and add some unique touches that I know we all enjoy. It has been my favorite "job" and I truly feel that I was made for it. Our society made me think that being a homemaker was something to be ashamed of since I wasn't working out of the home, but I disagree with that now and think it's one of the most amazing jobs. And going to 1 income is hard at first because we were used to spending money on whatever we wanted, but after setting a budget we have learned to wait to buy things we want at the end of the month if we have money leftover, it's made us appreciate what we already have.
@shakaliha8386 Says:
yes let's become poor because of tiktok trend, excellent idea!
@11nica5 Says:
When you factor in the fact that you don’t have the cost of a commute, lunches out, parking, bridge tolls, daycare, you start eating at home; the home becomes managed better and you become cost conscious you will almost ALWAYS come out on top. That’s before you factor in that everyone’s quality of life automatically improves. I’ll never regret it
@KassandraWence Says:
My husband and I also transitioned from two to one income GRADUALLY. I love that you suggest that! The gradual transition from me working outside the home full-time, down to part-time, down to contingent, made the change less of a shock. It IS possible!
@AnaSchultz-kx9tq Says:
She teaching that while having a TWO income household due to youtube: 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
@reginasemenenko148 Says:
Lol.
@femalebusinessacademy Says:
I’m a little surprised someone in the US (and not in Russia where I am from, lol) actually wants to limit her opportunities in achieving goals and earning money. Earning money is fantastic, achieving career goals feels awesome, so, even though I respect your viewpoint, I can’t believe what I’ve just heard. Limiting women and suggesting these ideas while having the privilege of actually earning, simply may cause serious problems for a woman in future. Anyone, male/female must earn. You are a human. Some women in certain countries dream of having a job, how could this be possible that in one of the most economically developed countries, if not the most, there are people suggesting the idea of “living on your husband’s money”? Also, practically thinking - you never know what’s gonna happen tomorrow. Especially if you have kids. This is the reality. How safe is it to not work/earn then? It’s your personal and maternal duty to earn, not just consume in exchange for certain non-vital things (cleaning, comfort, etc) that any man can do. On top, not having women working it’s simply degrading for any country’s economic and social development. You seem to be a very sweet and kind person, but these ideas are simply dangerous and should not be promoted. You personally can monetise your YouTube videos, but people from other, less-developed English-speaking countries may just take your words for real and for them the consequences of choosing not to earn could be much more serious.
@soopersonic488 Says:
My tip is to prioritize paying off debt. Hard to transition to single income if you have 2 car payments! Also having a small emergency fund helps for unexpected costs.
@alexandrapalacio1105 Says:
Are you really sacrificing? How much money does your channel generates? There is a disconnect for sure.
@yvonnehorde1097 Says:
Thanks for this. If your budget is stretched, eating seasonal comes in handy.That is, do not go for strawberries in the midst of winter unless you live in California or Florida. Also,making food durable in summer or fall for the winter by a special way of cooking iit and putting it in special glasses might save you money. You have time, use it wisely. The children do not always have to wear the latest fashion. It is not a bad thing to buy clothes for the kids from a second hand market when you wash them properly. And younger children can wear the outgrown stuff from the older ones, it is okay despite what many people say. Gardening as a hobby with planting your own herbs or fruit and vegetable is not only rewarding but might even enhance the qualities of your meals while lowering your expenses. In Germany, gardening is a very traditional hobby.The kids can have fun with it, too. do not feel ahamed to ask them to help you in the garden, it actually benefits them. If you sew, there is no reason to feel ashamed to make teddies. for your children yourself. Some kids love these even more than expensive ones from the store. Do not shy away from mending or repairing your clothes or even the clothes of the kids. If you do it creatively, the stuff might even look cooler than beforehand. Make going out and dining out special again. If you do it right, you can really save money and enhance the quality of your diet by cooking and eating home-made meals. Learning about cooking, storage of food, how to prepare leftovers for another good meal does not only help your budget but also the environment - if you, for example , made noodles the day before, you can make a great noodle-salad from the leftovers the day after., the same works with potatoes. If you or your husband into DIY, go absolutely for it. It can save you a lot of money and give your home a very personal touch. And a trick from German housewife: Accounting books. Write down the money that you have and everything you spend. You might find out very fast where you can save some money, like the coffee at Starbucks, the extra cake here, the little spoiling thing there....You name it...
@whatbrigiddid6492 Says:
Understanding not all couples have children. However the ultimate ‘cost’ is to children in full time childcare (60hours a week).
I use childcare to do a little work to help out (15hours). In return I’m less stressed, my husband is happy and so are the children. We all eat well and our house 🏠 is comfortable.
Ultimately what more could you ask for? ❤
@fuhgetabatit1051 Says:
Stop being poor
@patm9904 Says:
I would love to be a trad wife - should I ask my wife if it is OK? @Estee Williams
@danyellesibert6724 Says:
They feed us this narrative that we have to be 50/50. But it is a bold face lie. In fact. I made more than my husband. We both paid 50/50 and my husband never had extra. I felt like I was doing more and I wasn’t. I had no issues doing all the housework and such, but this made him feel lesser, hence negative emotions. We had a baby and had full intentions of continuing our careers. Once I became sick from a rare pregnancy issue and my baby was preemie we immediately had to rely on my husband only. Let me tell you he was scared at first, but he found a higher paying job and he was more than happy to be the bread winner, and this automatically allowed me to burnish my inner feminine side that I could only do when I was off. Now I was raising my baby, home cooked meals, cleaning our home, and running all the errands appts etc. I stayed very busy. We have had 4 children now. I still stay very busy, but I’m happy with my career and my husband is happy being the bread winner. He fully sees the value in me without providing any income at all. I have recently added some more income, but we don’t care. It is just that, extra. And no pressure. A good man wants a feminine, fit, happy wife, and it just saves on money to have those amazing home cooked meals in his belly. He gets the shower first (because I get mine in the day), the house is spotless, and his stomach is full. But I handle everything else as well. He is an excellent provider. Makes more than both of us combined and he has zero worries outside of work. Best of all when the family is all together, weekends, we have no cleaning, cooking, or errands we have to do. We can relax, play football with the kids, or whatever his heart desires. That is a marriage.
@heatherofcrunchyleaves1519 Says:
Maybe a husband could make better income renting their house, the wife could include helping to make cleaning plans for the house whether it's herself of calling a team that they have both talked about.
@ommeloise6309 Says:
If a man wants a trad wife like Estee, he has to be able to provide. If you cannot provide this lifestyle for your wife, you’ll both have to settle for another lifestyle.
@rrdutch4111 Says:
Don’t really buy into the tread wife movement but I do miss the spirit of what a traditional relationship is. I don’t mean 1950s America “traditional”; I mean what traditional relationships always were… men and women always worked together, both for survival, and to raise a family. The idea was a wife would help her husband and whatever business or occupation he was involved in; In addition to monetizing her own hobbies and activities while at home. A husband and wife could easily be partners both in marriage, and running a business, even in modern daytimes. The issue is, if not all women have no interest in that type of loving partnership…
@user-bo5fi5rj6h Says:
I admire you.
@SarahOMiller Says:
Soooooo… your tip for transitioning from two incomes to one, is that the woman still has to work at least part time to be able to have money for anything besides the barest of necessities?
Sounds like the “man” in this scenario isn’t much of a Provider after all. 👀
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