She doesn’t seem to have much confidence in her own kids or parenting skills. It must be terrible to live in such fear.
@ChloeBanks Says:
So much sheltering and privilege here
@Missdarling_ Says:
America is a country with many different cultures. I think it is just the culture you are raised in. I can’t speak for all the cultures that we have here l, but I can say for Hispanics we are family oriented and we don’t believe in the idea of once the child is 18 they are force to move out and figure things out on their own.
@andreeatheodora787 Says:
You don't need to separate from your family to go to college.
@JuniperGal-ek2pu Says:
This is stupid. Your family can still guide you if your away from them. You don’t have to live with them forever neither do you have to move out instantly. This is just another end of the extreme.
@ImaginationBlue Says:
Very good points Estee. Agreed.
@MaybeSunday Says:
I agree with you 100%. I moved away for college, it was totally unnecessary. The environment was as you describe it- and it made me uncomfortable cause that’s not my scene at all. Dealing with roommates in a small dorm room was a nightmare on top of all that. I finally had enough and moved home. Agree with you that it can be isolating. If someone has to move away for college would suggest a single dorm room or an apartment with a trusted person.
I understand not everyone experiences college like Ester described it but it was exactly like that for me.
Agreed that community college is the best route- saves you a ton of money as well. Thank you for sharing this solid advice.
@dianaG7065 Says:
Not every family is beneficial to stay around. And rather than stay in a sheltered environment, maybe kids need to go make those decisions on their own.
@dityo32 Says:
Structure is before 18. You can always come home every weekend because weekends is dangerous.
@user-wz5fh8by7k Says:
I’m a Christian who went to college away from my family. Not far, but far enough. I never did drugs or had sex or any of those things she’s talking about. I kept my morals and got away from my narcissistic, toxic mother. I’m now a stay at home mom for the last 14 years after earning a degree and working for the first couple years of marriage. If I hadn’t gone to college I wouldn’t have realized just how abusive my home life actually was and might have perpetuated that lifestyle for my family. As it is, I am a cycle breaker and my kids are growing up in a much better environment.
@user-rf3te8uf2d Says:
I finished college and didn't do ANY drugs, I don't smoke cigarettes, rarely drank alcohol, and certainly hardly dated anyone.
I already had my morals well in place by age 5. I was never swayed by other people because I answered to my own conscience.
If people work they can do drugs, drink and have sex. That's found everywhere, not just in colleges.
If you want a great education you most likely will need to go to a better school than comunity college.
And at some point we all need to leave our parents and be on our own. Doing that for college is reasonable.
@neomatrix4412 Says:
College=student loans
@liorasitelman1856 Says:
Death and disability and divorce happen. Ladies, please make sure you have either college or trade school or job training before marriage just in case you need something to fall back on. You never know what curveballs life may throw your way. Sacrifice in your 20s so you’re not potentially poor in your 40s.
@pratikshyamohapatra Says:
I agree with your points, but education college university also important... wrong companions are everywhere...thats parents job to guide their young ones , guide them with morals values....m an indian.. i never did drug party s*x at my college days..was busy with semesters
@mikloscsuvar6097 Says:
If the kids were taught really good moral and were taught well, distance is not a problem.
@subhraa6932 Says:
Girl , just say you didn't get good grades and want to be privileged and had rich parents . That's it
@thomasjefferson6 Says:
In addition to enormous expense, no guarantee of a good-paying job, and debt that could take many years to pay off, these modern colleges and universities are becoming little more than hard-Left indoctrination centers. While these places have always been of the Left (and very anti-religious- except, of course, when it comes to Islam), these institutions have become incredibly radical in recent years. There is nothing wrong with furthering one's education, but too often what passes for "education" at these places is something less.
@janwarriner6554 Says:
Attending college doesn’t cause one to lose the values you’re taught by your parents. I attended college and never drank or drugged. I got a valuable education, experienced college life as a stepping stone to adulthood and lived on campus. If your parents taught you good things then temptation doesn’t exist. If you attend college you will select like minded friends who have your values.
So I don’t agree with all you said. How I was brought up made all the difference I needed.
@xiaohanjiang4960 Says:
Not everyone does drugs or stuff like that on college, especially religious people.
@xiaohanjiang4960 Says:
It is too absolute
@xiaohanjiang4960 Says:
You need to change your title.
@elibennett6168 Says:
First, let me say that neither of my children lived on campus. I agree, too much temptation, though some can do well by being strong in character. But both have a vocation to be able to support themselves. Second, the fact that Estee was "petrified" to go somewhere else for college explains a lot about why she seeks safety and insularity in a marriage. I believe she has elsewhere claimed she was independent but clearly this is not the case. The statistics, however, show that the less education the higher the divorce rate. Additionally, research has shown that the higher the intelligence of the woman, the less likely she is to be married. Men don't want women more intelligent than they are, generally speaking, so let them have their careers in peace and without judgment. A woman like this cannot wait around for someone else to support her when he's unlikely to want her. From a Christian standpoint, Paul spoke about earning money so as not to be a burden to others and to be productive/busy. Indeed, he stated it was good to remain single and celibate, and for that people need to work to suppor themselves.
@liorasitelman1856 Says:
Sorry but I’m glad I got educated. We can respectfully disagree on this one.
@Maclyn88 Says:
I enlisted in the Army at 18 when my parents kicked me out simply because I was technically an adult and I had graduated from highschool. You're obviously delusional if you think most people have some comfy ass, loving home to stay at as long as they want 👀 I put myself through college earning my degree in Business Finance and I haven't talked my "parents" in years. No one can ever take away your education or your ability to financially support yourself.
@Irishrose777 Says:
I went to college and never partied drank alcohol or did drugs. You can go to college and not be influenced by the toxic party culture. Some people just want a chance to get an education.
@cegecej Says:
Glad you had a healthy family. A lot of people don't
@amandatrayes5272 Says:
Wanting an education is never wrong. Sorrynotsorry
@heatherthompson8837 Says:
Boy oh boy, are you ever generalizing. I went away to college, never had a drink or a drug. Still haven't. My daughter is also away at college, as her field of study isn't offered in our state, and she's the same as me. She has no desire to join the party scene - never did in high school and still doesn't. So, you'd be wise to drop your blanket assumptions.
@nacht_owl Says:
That's right, ladies! Cultivating an intellect is BAD for you and is threatening to men. How dare you pursue university? )Also take note, I am not saying that going to college is THE way to go; there are tons of people who come out of college still stupid as anything and just have a paper degree that allows them to get a better job). Her perspective is terrible: she forgets that men and women are equal in intellect, and therefore ANYONE can have a calling to the humanities, the liberal arts, the sciences, being a truck driver, etc. Again, not saying that college is the only way to become formed in this way, but it's helpful and my grandmother who grew up in WW2 Germany to this day at age 86 laments how she could not attend university and get a degree because the whole of Germany was in ruins and no one had money. But I DO AGREE that in general, going away at the age of 18 as opposed to staying close to home (if family envionrment is not abusive etc) is TOO early for a young adult. It does contribute I think to "experimentation" etc but I was raised by 4 grandparents and so I was driven towards the idea of not inflicting any harm on myself emotionally or physically, nor onto anyone else, ie drinking, sex etc.
@TheWatchmen001 Says:
The biggest reason they are pushed to go to college is so the can be in debt. Then having that debt, there is some things that are assured. She will then be tied to a job she hates, but she has to do it a continue collecting debt. Then she is forced to stay in that job, let's face it, it's not a "career" most are having. It's a job, wage slavery. Therefore flooding job markets and keeping ppl on the rat race.
@metatron478 Says:
Anyone asvocating for women to be less independent is not a friend to women.
@Jules-740 Says:
College is not for everyone. And is not necessary for success. What is needed for success in life is something called attitude and discipline. You have to have a champion attitude and discipline. You will get far with those two.
@user-jl1hb2fv9g Says:
If the parents provide a solid upbringing, good moral values etc. Then they should be confident that those values will stay with their children regardless where they go in life. Also, back in the 50s women went to college and it was used as a great opportunity to meet successful husbands.
@ommeloise6309 Says:
Is that a brow lift? Or do you shave your eyebrows completely and draw them back in?
I’m not going to waste money on plastic surgery, but I might try my hand with an eyebrow pencil.
@s99bf0c8 Says:
You have a different take, no problem. You are not shaming anyone, just challenging some assumptions underpinning modern life. We should be questioning things more.
@isaa8521 Says:
This woman just wants attention for saying the most unhinged controversial things. Shes such a “tradwife” that she is making money from her videos and if her marriage doesn’t work out, she can leave with all that money🤡 also she used to be an actress so idk why she’s focused on women going to college when she got to do whatever she wanted. She’s the textbook definition of a scam artist😂
@aizazoie Says:
I love how Estee Williams only likes the comments that she agrees with and are fully in her favor. Weak woman who can't handle criticism.
(And that's coming from me, someone who disagrees with everything about feminism, drugs, or casual sex).
@Nana-rn3iq Says:
This woman showing us as trad wife but herself being modern with utube channel, instagram earning money she a liar don't listen to her she should delete her channel misleading other naive women.
@stevem1965 Says:
They dont teach home economics in CC anymore so may as well go to UCLA.
@psychoamerican Says:
I went to college for about 2 years. Eventually dropped out and am working a fast food job. College is definitely not for everyone and I do feel it shouldn't be pushed on everyone as it is. My mental health was not the best when I attended and it didn't improve. I ended up preferring to work than attend so I dropped out to work fulltime. My mental health has recovered somewhat and I may give online college a shot one day. But for me the isolation was overwhelming and part of the reason my mental health suffered. I knew no one and making friends was hard. I avoided all partying so that may have been part of the reason why 😅 I also drove about 11/2 hours to get there and back almost every single day. The commute eventually took its toll.
@KendraWest-xk6po Says:
You know, you sound just like a Jehovah's Witness meeting. I hope you're okay with that. 😂
@alexisl9426 Says:
She’s like a historical reenactor 😂
@pw3543 Says:
The communist said “we will take your sons and daughters into the university and make them as different from you as we can”
@TheNursey13 Says:
I totally agree!!
@Abigail7401 Says:
I love the IDEA of higher education, but the cost of it and the way it promotes indoctrination is a big turnoff. Community college is a great way to get your basics done cheap before transferring to a university for your major! (Just make sure beforehand they will accept all your credit hours!) Also, I wish that we had more ways to apprentice. Yes, plumbers and electricians apprentice for years, but it would be amazing if white collar jobs would take on the apprenticeship model instead of forcing people into unpaid, overworked internships and volunteering in order to gain experience.
@Thebirthdaylibrarian Says:
I am planning on going to college for a rather specialized degree that is not yet offered in most colleges and universities (and even in many of the schools it is the program isn’t especially good). This means I will not have a choice but to leave and go elsewhere. This doesn’t mean I will be abandoning my family or the values they have taught me, it just means I will have to learn to uphold them on my own. I trust that my parents have taught me well enough that I can live apart from them and still live well and they trust that as well.
@guylarcher6005 Says:
I thought college was a place that you studied but apparently it's only for sex and drugs.
@sppss617 Says:
I think our society (nation as a whole) is going to collapse EVEN FURTHER than it already has been collapsing the more women go to college. Why? because it typically causes singles to delay marriage further and further out and married couples are having less and less kids. And soon enough, we won't have a society that replaces the old generations that are dying off. And the dollar will go down, down, down in value and we will live like a third world country because we don't have enough boys growing up to do SEWER work, Mechanic work, Electrician work. And we don't have and will NOT HAVE enough girls growing up to be wives and mommies. These generational gaps will be similar to the effects of a WW3. Businesses will have to close down and so forth. What do you think about that?
@Williamb612 Says:
Ideally yes, however families can be the most toxic environments in the world...so appears you have a great family.
In my experience it is really contingent on the situation
@Bestfledermaus Says:
Whilst i agree with this mostly, for some women it is actually healthier to leave the family they’re from and move away to eventually create their own.. however, it is difficult for a woman alone to navigate this without any support and she can easily fall victim to predatory men who will just waste her valuable years….. hmm
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